Some boys have been single for many years and have not been able to find a suitable partner. They finally meet a girl they like, but due to lack of love experience, they do not know how to pursue her and miss this opportunity. So how can a boy who was born alone catch the girl he likes?
1. Don’t deny yourself
Yes Sometimes, when we feel that a person is too dazzling to reach, we often really miss him.
Some boys who were single before they met the girl they liked had the idea of ??"she is so beautiful and I am so ordinary, what should I do if she is rejected?" before they even start pursuing her. It caused a lot of psychological burden.
Naturally, the behavior in the next process of getting along with girls will be unsatisfactory.
There is a famous phenomenon in psychology called the "Pygmalion effect":
"What you expect, you will get. What you get is not what you want, but It’s what you expect. As long as you have confident expectations, as long as you really believe that things will go smoothly, things will go smoothly. On the contrary, if you believe that things will continue to encounter resistance, these resistances will arise.”
In layman’s terms, when you think something is possible, it has a high probability of happening; when you think something is impossible, it is very likely that it will not happen.
Originally, both parties could have achieved a good relationship, but in the end, you set limits in your imagination, which caused great regret.
Before other girls say you can’t do it, you should tell yourself a hundred times that you can’t do it.
So, when you meet a girl you like, don’t deny yourself, chase her boldly, maybe she also likes you?
2. Appropriately release the sense of need
If you like this thing, there is no way to hide it.
If you like a girl, you can’t help but chat with her, like her comments on Moments, share everything about you with her, and reply to her messages carefully and thoughtfully.
If the two of you are already in love with each other, then your state of affairs will make the other person feel very excited.
And if girls are not very interested in you at this stage, and you allow your emotions to dominate your behavior, you will send long and numerous messages one after another; as long as you have time, you will want to date girls. Come out; once a girl has a headache and a fever, you greet her three times a day and wish to take care of her 24 hours a day.
Such a "high demand" state will only scare girls away from you because your behavior is too "aggressive".
There are also some boys who don’t know how to recognize girls’ favorability signals.Or they don’t know how to deal with girls’ signals of affection at all.
You must know that for a girl, when she sends a signal of affection, your lack of feedback is a tactful rejection in her mind. Therefore, when you receive a favorable signal from a girl, the right thing to do is to appropriately release your sense of need and let her know how you feel.
3. Hold the window
Only when the heat is just right can you make a good pot of tea. But there are always some boys who dare not take a dip even though "the water is boiling", thus missing a great opportunity.
Every day, they yearn to cultivate a relationship with a girl as soon as possible, but they dare not advance the relationship when the opportunity comes. In the end, they waste the opportunity, either cultivating themselves into a ten thousand-year backup, or Watching girls being seduced by other boys.
Why is this happening?
In fact, in the final analysis, it is all because they do not know how to identify the window period. It is clearly the window period for relationship upgrade, but they are too slow to notice it, or even though they He was aware of it, but he hesitated because of timidity.
However, in this slow and timid situation, fate just passes by. When a girl’s desire to upgrade the relationship is not responded to, when he feels a little bit ambiguous about you. In the past, you could only be considered a "friend."
So how can we keenly identify the window period?
The window period has three obvious characteristics :
1) Girls chat with you frequently and closely, and they use intimate nicknames that are higher than friendship.
2) Girls frequently date you alone and intentionally create physical contact with you.
3) Talk to you very straightforwardly about upgrading the relationship, even hinting that "you are already a quasi-boyfriend".
You must know that once the window period is missed, it will be difficult to open it. Not accepting her signal to upgrade the relationship will only make the girl think, "Does he just want to play with me?" Once a girl agrees with this point of view, she will naturally reclassify you as a friend, so Qian Don’t miss these rare window periods again!
