I have been in love with my girlfriend for many years, and I feel that I have reached the age to talk about marriage. However, every time I mention marriage to my girlfriend, she shirks it with various reasons. What should I do in this situation?
< p> Generally speaking, there are three reasons why a girlfriend does not want to get married:1. Special childhood experiences and origins Negative influence of family
If you and your girlfriend are currently having a smooth love life without major conflicts, then at least it is not obvious that your girlfriend is troubled by this problem at present, and of course it does not rule out that you do not understand your girlfriend. If your girlfriend doesn't have this problem, everything will be fine; if your girlfriend has this problem and you don't know about it, then as a person who has been in a relationship for several years and has a great relationship, it's time to think about whether you can truly enter the other person's heart. .
2. Worries about the quality and comfort of life after marriage.
The most obvious manifestation is the worry that the future family will reduce the quality of one's material life and restrict the freedom to go one's own way while single. If your girlfriend doesn't want to get married for this reason, then this mentality may slowly change in the future as her age and life experience change. But the changes she may make need to be based on the following premises: First, she is still young (no more than 25 years old), has not experienced too many twists and turns in life, and is willing to work hard and pay for love and lovers. Second, you are willing to accompany her to grow up and encourage her regardless of the consequences, and you will not complain even if the work is divided in the end.
3. Your girlfriend is a non-marriageist
A non-marriageist is willing to have a partner but Rejecting any form or essence of self-restraint, this type of person is a person who seriously lacks a sense of responsibility. People who can get along with them happily and not be hurt by them must also be people who hold the same three views. On the contrary, even if you are initially strongly attracted to them and are willing to do everything for them, the final result will inevitably be constant conflicts caused by conflicting value systems. What's more, in the process of "loving" them, they paid too much and consumed too much. When they were really faced with the inevitable result of not being able to get married, they developed despair for the future and inability to love. In this case, it depends on whether you can accept your girlfriend's non-marriage policy, or whether you can persuade her to marry you.
Falling in love is indeed much easier than getting married, as it only involves two people. Marriage also involves two families who both love each other. If one of them is not handled well, they may have to move from marriage to divorce. . So it is normal if your girlfriend has concerns about getting married. Also, you have to reflect on whether you are usually a little too carefree to make your girlfriend mistrust you, whether you are a little lazy and often unwilling to do housework, and whether you have no time to take care of your daughter when you are having fun.As a friend, you need to dispel these concerns of your girlfriend before she will be willing to join hands with you in marriage.
